However, I made a mistake this morning. While my beloved continues to slumber, I quietly got my morning coffee and intended to write, anticipating the small slice of solitude in which to attempt to organize my thoughts. I love writing, and I love having the space and time to do so. Unfortunately for me, like I said, I made a mistake. I read someone’s blog that, once again, called me out as a crappy person, a used-to-be friend who lacked the integrity to hang in there and ALWAYS be there. So, no, that wasn’t the best way to take the first bite of my ‘slice,’ as it were.
I should know better by now. Every time this person blogs, they just can’t leave it alone. They continue looking backward and lamenting how they have been mistreated despite their best efforts and intentions. Painting past situations according to their recollections…which is their prerogative, I suppose. I just need to learn the lesson: don’t read.
So, that’s my story. When I deactivated my Facebook account, (which is no easy task, by the way), I checked the box that said I was only going to be off ‘temporarily.’ That may be the case, but it may not. Truly, it is none of their business; they have received enough marketing and demographic data from me as it is. But, here’s my rule:
When it is no longer fun nor edifying, it’s over.
Time to move on.
And that is the real lesson, in my mind, anyway. Things change. Websites change, relationships change and evolve, and we change. Our perspectives change. And, as we get older and supposedly more wise, we feel more free to actually say how we feel about those changes, and make more changes, if necessary. And, that is what happened with that relationship with the author of the blog post that I read first thing this morning—things changed. The relationship demise the author was bemoaning had evolved into something that was not satisfying to all involved. It was unfortunate, indeed, but just because the relationship ended doesn’t mean it wasn’t good before, or that the entire relationship was a deception. It just changed, just like everything everywhere always.