My Bottom Line - a rant of sorts.
In the end, no one can make another into someone or something else without their consent.
No one can force anyone to be someone they are not, or to act in ways that go against what they believe or think without their permission.
No one can change another's personality, their physical features, or what makes them laugh or cry.
No one has the right to tell anyone their feelings or emotions are wrong. How they feel and react belongs to them, and them alone.
No one has the right to request or demand anyone to act disingenuous for their own purposes.
And, only the Ruach HaKodesh has the right to admonish us for our G-d given personality, flaws and all. He is rather good at this, actually. And, in all truth, He is the only one that can facilitate changes within us; this works best when we are willing and open to His leading.
None of this, however, gives anyone the right to act poorly...ever.
And, that is my bottom line.